I'm not organized... yet!

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 I don't play the bass guitar... yet! A couple weeks ago that sentence would have read, "I don't play the bass guitar." It wasn't that I didn't want to, it's been my dream since Jr. High, but I needed a series of events to make that change.  

  So, what do you not do... yet? It may be speaking a different language, yoga, scrapbooking, golf, etc. Or maybe, since you're reading this newsletter, it has to do with organizing! Lucky for you I just happen to have some Timely Tips from my guitar experience that can help you achieve your organizing, and other goals!

TIMELY TIPS - I'm not organized... yet! 

1. Know what your goal is. I didn't want to play just any stringed instrument. I wanted to play the bass. Identify aspecific area of your home or office that you want organized.

2. Acquire support. I found a bass at a flea market in my neighborhood, but never would have made the purchase without my husband and a friend, who knows guitars, saying, "Go for it!" Find a friend, family member, or colleague who thinks your organizing goal is a great idea and will cheer you on. 

3. Make yourself accountable. Posting my purchase on Facebook made me feel more accountable to do something with it. Write down your next action step, give yourself a deadline, and ask someone to check up on your progress. At one of my speaking events a woman shared that she and a friend text "before" pictures to each other of an area they're going to organize. After a specified amount of time, they text each other the "after" shot. Great accountability!    

4. Jam with friends. My friend Julie, who in recent years took up the drums, said, "Let's jam," and gave me a song to work on. Another friend Frayda, of the musically gifted Bluestein family, chimed in and said she'd join us on the electric guitar. The thought of "jamming" with my friends was a great jump start for me. Consider making your organizing project a family affair, or find a friend to help. My sister and I give each other a Lunch 'n Labor gift each birthday. The birthday girl gets to pick a project that she would rather not do alone. We work on it together and treat ourselves to lunch.  

5. Obtain the proper tools. An electric bass without an amplifier is not much good. Fortunately I already had one, but I'll need to purchase a case. Having the right organizing products can help tremendously. But before running out to purchase them, take stock of what you have or what might become available as you de-clutter. 

6. Seek good instruction. I bought the Hal Leonard Bass book and DVD, but I think it's going to take the commitment of lessons with a professional to keep me on task. I see many clients with a plethora of organizing books. If it works for you to read and apply-- great! Another option is to sign up for my organizing class or schedule a session and let me help you get moving toward your goal.    

WISE WORDS

"When you're at the beginning, don't obsess about the middle, because the middle is going to look different when you get there. Just look for a strong beginning and a strong ending and get moving."

-Chip & Dan Heath

Back to School... already?? or All Ready!

Back in the day, preparing for school meant heading to Sears for a couple new dresses, some socks, and a pair of shoes. School supplies were provided at school. They even threw in free milk and graham crackers!

​My kindergarten class 1963

​My kindergarten class 1963

These days there's a little more involved. Besides loading up on binders, paper, and pens, check out Timely Tips for ideas on how to prepare your kids and their environment for a successful school year. 

​TIMELY TIPS - Back to School... all ready!!

1. Gather Supplies

  • Start with a supply list from the teacher.
  • Check your stock on hand before purchasing new supplies.
  • Label all the supplies with your child's name.

2. Create Homes for Everything! 

  • Inside Backpack - Use zippered or lidded containers for pens, pencils, etc. Prepare a binder with labeled pocket dividers designated for each school subject. Prepare two binders (odd day/even day), for students on block schedule. Prepare a folder labeled "Parent Papers" for handouts needing to be seen/signed by you.
  • School Desk Supplies - Use drawer dividers to sort and store desk supplies at school, keeping like things together.
  • At Home - Designate a homework area and equip a nearby drawer or cabinet  with a container of pens, paper, scissors, etc. Provide an accessible hook or shelf for each child's backpack so it can be put away and found when needed. Designate an in/out tray or basket for the "Parent Papers" folder. Prepare a plastic file tote for each child with files labeled by month or subject for school papers that need to be saved. Purge after each semester or at the end of the school year. Place a plastic bin in the closet or under the bed for larger keepsake projects. 

3. Calendars

  • Provide Middle and High School students with paper or electronic assignment calendars. Instruct them on their use and keep tabs on them as needed. 
  • Create a master family calendar for the wall or use an online calendar (see featured link).

4. Rules and Routines

  • Clearly define school-day rules and routines (morning, after school, bedtime) using chore charts, homework schedules, reward plans, etc.
  • Have students lay out their clothes and fill their backpacks the night before with completed homework, clean PE/sports clothes, etc.
  • Establish boundaries for computer use, video games, TV, etc. 
  • Schedule a weekly family time to view and discuss upcoming activities and schedules.

WISE WORDS

  Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.   -William Butler Yeats

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It's not my job...

​My husband, Scott, with Candice "mowing the laundry" 1986

​My husband, Scott, with Candice "mowing the laundry" 1986

"Mommy, I'll do that for you when I'm big, OK?" These were the sweet words of my three-year-old daughter, Candice, as I was scrubbing the toilet one day. Needless to say, I wrote it down and had her scribble a "C" next to it. 

   When my second-born, Rachel, was four she announced, "Mommy, I'm going to do all your work for you today!" So I asked, "What kind of work are you going to do?" She replied, "Like mow the laundry." Why is it that kids want to do stuff only until they're actually big enough to do it?

   My friend, Deanna's, little boy was telling his family about his day at school and said they talked about the chores they have at home. He said all the kids thought he was so lucky when he told them he didn't have any. His mom replied, "What are you talking about? You set the table, empty the dishwasher, clean your room, sort, fold, and put away laundry, make your bed, and clear the table after meals." He looked at her strangely and said, "Those aren't 'chores,' those are just the things I do."

   That little guy has it right! Being part of a family is like being part of a baseball team. When the ball comes to you, you don't consider it a chore to catch it and put it where it needs to go next... that's just what you do. And you wouldn't expect the coach or manager to cover your position on the field. Does your family function as a team? Check out Timely Tips for some family team building strategies. 

TIMELY TIPS 

The Five "C's" of Family Teamwork 

1.  Create the Climate - Whether you're tweaking established routines, or introducing family chores for the first time communicate how important each family member's role is to the success of the family team. Choose an analogy that your family can relate to - a sports team, band, cheer squad, etc. Note how winning teams encourage each other with high fives and hugs. Thank your kids for doing their chores even though it's expected, and let them catch you and your spouse thanking each other for daily duties. We all like to feel appreciated! 

2.  Clearly Define Duties - A pitcher isn't just told to throw the ball as fast as he can to the backstop. He's trained to aim for home base between the shoulders and knees of the batter. Likewise, everyone in the family needs to know what's expected of them. Not simply - "clean your room." Show and tell them exactly what that looks like. Chore charts are a handy tool too (www.chorecharts.com).

3.  Cover - If the ball is hit to left field, the center fielder doesn't just stand there thinking, "It's not my job to catch the left field balls." He runs over to cover, in case the left fielder isn't able to complete the play. Family teams are strengthened as Dad and Mom model this type of character and kids are on the giving and receiving end of occasionally covering for one another.  

4.  Consistency - Practice, practice, practice! Following through is as draining on parents as it is on children, but have you ever seen a successful team that doesn't consistently practice? Be consistent in requiring your kids to follow through with their clearly defined duties. You and they will reap the benefits!

5.  Consequences - Every family must determine their own reward/punishment system for this training process. Personally, I like the idea that there are some things family members do, just because they're part of the family. There may be other occasional jobs that they are paid for. A negative consequence for one who has failed to meet his/her obligations might be to assign an additional chore from your backburner list. That way you benefit either way! : ) 

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Wise Words

The name we give something shapes our attitude toward it.    --Katherine Paterson

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Too much of a good thing

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Going to BJ's Restaurant is a treat. The choice is easy when it comes to dessert, but with so many great items on the dinner menu, deciding what to have is difficult for me. Whoever said, "You can't have too much of a good thing" was, in my opinion, wrong. (That's also why you see four spoons for one Pizookie.)

Today's Timely Tips highlight some common areas in which we find ourselves with "too much of a good thing" and some practical strategies to combat the issue.  

TIMELY TIPS - What to do with your "too much." 

1.  Toys - Kids are prone to overwhelm when it comes to choices -- even when it's choosing between good stuff! Sort through their toys, eliminating the broken and donating the unused or grown out of. Keep only the amount that can be stored in an orderly and accessible manner. Rotate excess favorites if need be, storing them out of sight/reach. This will create a more pleasurable play environment. 

2.  Magazines - If looking at the stack of magazines next to your recliner creates anxiety rather than anticipation, you probably have too many. Think realistically about how much time you actually read magazines on a monthly basis and keep only that which you can get through in a month's time. Yes, it will hurt to discard the rest, but only for awhile. You'll get the next issue soon. The reward is now seeing your magazines as a blessing rather than a burden.   

3.  Greeting Cards & Stationary - If exhausting your supply of cards and stationary would require you to live to be 150, it's time to purge. Decide how much to keep based on the frequency of use, and the amount of space you want to allot those items. Find a container or drawer that will match the criteria and maintain that boundary. This may mean donating the next set of unsolicited note cards you receive in the mail with a request for a donation.  

4.  Clothes - Unless you host a daily talk show on TV, you probably don't need a different outfit for every day of the year, or even month. Most of us wear a very small portion of the clothes we own. The rest are taking up precious space and making it difficult to find the items we wear. Purge the items that don't look or feel great on you. Keep a few from the size you're working toward. Then, enjoy the ability to easily find the clothes you love and wear.    

5.  Organizing Books and Products - If you find your home cluttered by your attempts to get organized, it's time to call a professional. Disorganization is not a character flaw. If your child is struggling with math applications, you get a tutor. If you're struggling with getting organized, I will be happy to personally guide you through the steps you need to take to achieve your goals. 

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WISE WORDS

Before buying something, ask yourself, "is this going to make my life noticeably better?" --Paul Graham

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The OBC Diet Plan

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The other night I returned from a family dinner with some left-over veggies from the veggie/dip plate I brought. I tossed them into a clear bowl with some plastic wrap and put them in the fridge. Not only did they look pretty sitting there all red, orange, green, yellow, and whatever color peeled cucumbers are, but the next time I went for a snack, I actually grabbed some and ate them!

   I would venture to say that many of you, like me, consider part of the definition of a snack something that you don't have to prepare when you want to eat it. When I opened the fridge and the veggies were there, all washed and chopped, they suddenly became a viable snack!  

   Check out this issues Timely Tips and discover how organizing your food can lead to a healthier you!  

TIMELY TIPS - The OBC Diet Plan 

1.  Make healthier foods more accessible. Prepare some fruits and vegetables in snack-size pieces and place them in a clear container, front and center in the fridge. This can be done by cutting extra when preparing a salad, or taking time to do so when putting the groceries away.  

2.  Place some of your cut-up fruits and veggies in snack-size Ziplocks to take with you for break-time at work. 

3.  Place less nutritious foods and drinks in the back of the fridge-- out of sight and less accessible.  

4.  Organize the rest of your fridge using the drawers and sections for their intended purpose (veggie drawer, meat/cheese drawer, etc.)-- creating a home for everything. When it's easier to find what you're looking for, cooking at home will be more pleasurable. Thus, less fast food. 

5.  Assign a specific spot in the fridge for left-overs (another good alternative to fast food). This will keep them from being forgotten and wasted. Store them in clear glass containers (pictured above) so you can see what's inside and put them straight into the microwave.  

6.  Organize the freezer placing like things together and healthier food choices in front. By keeping frequently purchased items in the same spot, you can easily check stock and know what you need to add to your grocery list.

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WISE WORDS

If your goals aren't clear and your thinking isn't focused, you can't break the habits that stand in your way.   --Peter Walsh

In 'n Out Pay-off

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Have you ever been diverted from your course of action by a sign like this? The craft stores really know how to getcha. These products are positioned right at the door coming in, and lining the maze as you wait to check out. They're not even ashamed to call them what they are-- Impulse Items! I suppose they have to sell a lot of these to make money, but I'm thinking they do. Being intentional about what's situated on the way in and out of their stores is paying off. I know I've made my contribution!

What about your home? You too can reap a pay-off in terms of time saved, stress reduced, and clutter cleared by being intentional about what's near your door. 

Check out Timely Tips for ideas that will create your own In 'n Out pay-off.  

TIMELY TIPS - In 'n Out Pay-off 

1.  Designate an area near the door you enter/exit to set up your In 'n Out station. If that's not possible, use a nearby hall closet, laundry room, or bedrooms for the following.  

2.  Provide each family member with a designated hook (at a reachable height) for coats, backpacks, purses, sports bags, etc. 

3.  If shoes are removed here, create floor-level shelving (remember-- easy access is key) with dividers to designate a spot for each family member's shoes. 

4.  Assign and label a cubby, cube, or basket to each person. Place them on the shoe shelf or on a shelf above the hooks. These are homes for miscellaneous items that need to be put away, or go out the next day. 

5.  Add containers as needed for library books, dry cleaning, pet leashes, etc. 

6.  Mount a message board to record important items to communicate or remember. 

7.  Other In 'n Out items might include a charging station, a key hanger, and a mirror.

8.  Determine not to store more in this area than will comfortably fit in the containers and on the hooks and shelves (boundaries). 

9.  Have a family meeting to demonstrate how to use the In 'n Out station and consider a reward for individuals or the family when a successful week of use is achieved.

10. You'll all reap the pay-off of a more peaceful and productive environment! 

WISE WORDS

Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.   --William James

 

Picture this

Chase & Me 1992

Chase & Me 1992

My "baby" just turned a quarter of a century! There are many things I thought I'd remember about the early years but in reality, most of my memories are prompted by photos we took back then. Although, who could forget the bowl cuts and big bangs from the 90s!

   Apparently in a different phase of life I was really good at preserving and displaying our family photos. I just counted thirty-two photo albums! Later on, photographing life and the special events thereof was as much as I could handle. So, there are still photos to be dealt with.

   If you're currently looking at boxes, bags, and drawers full of photos check out my Four C's of photo organizing in this issue's Timely Tips. Don't let the story your photos are waiting to tell remain silent forever.

TIMELY TIPS - Four C's of Photo Organizing 

1. Collect: 

     Retrieve your photos from wherever they have landed in closets and drawers and place them into temporary storage bins or boxes.   

2. Categorize:

     Sort the photos into three categories

  • Album - the best of the best (top 20%) that you'll want to display

  • Archive - important photos to be stored in photo-safe boxes and/or digitized 

  • Abandon - Discard doubles, blurry photos, unflattering photos, landscape and buildings

3. Create: 

     Choose a method to display your album quality pics

  • Traditional photo albums with sleeves to slip photos into

  • Scrap books - you might even find a scrapbooking enthusiast to hire if it's not your thing

  • Photo books - photos must first be digitized and then uploaded into photo book templates online; the result is a hardback photo book. My daughter did her wedding album this way and it turned out beautifully!

  • (www.ShutterFly.com, www.Blurb.com, www.CostcoPhotoCenter.com)

4. Containerize:

     Sort remaining important photos by year and containerize in photo safe storage and/or digitize

  • Photo boxes (shoebox size) - these stack nicely and can be labeled on the front with the year or event; $2.50/box when on sale at Michael's

  • Check websites and stores with scrapbooking supplies for larger photo-safe storage containers (www.Joann.com, www.Target.com, www.ContainerStore.com)

WISE WORDS

Just as pieces stitched together in a quilt warm our bodies, scrapbooks bind together memories to warm our hearts.  --Author Unknown

What can't you see?

One of the things I miss most being on the down side of "the hill" is my perfect vision. It's been a good 10 years since it started to go, but I'm still fighting the whole glasses thing. For some things, like reading, I don't have a choice. For other activities I don't need them yet. But, there are a few things, like house-keeping, in which my imperfect vision is distorting reality. What appears to be a clean counter-top (to the un-spectacled eye), is really dotted with yesterday's crumbs! 

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   Wearing my glasses enables me to identify problem areas that I couldn't see before. Similarly, we might overlook problem areas in our homes and offices because we're not looking at them through the proper lenses. Take a look through the lenses in today's Timely Tips and see what you perhaps haven't seen.

TIMELY TIPS - Organizing Lenses
  1. Accessibility - Is the cereal within reach of the kids so they can get their own breakfast when needed? Are you digging through summer clothes to find something to wear in January? Do you have a waffle iron, blender, or rice cooker that's never used because it's still in the box? Check your home through the lens of accessibility and take the steps needed to make things more accessible.  
  2. Zoning - When it's time to pay a bill, does it require searching four different places for a pen, the bill, a stamp, and an envelope? Is it hard to determine if you have what you need for a painting project because your paint supplies are stored at random places throughout the garage? The zoning lens helps you see things in groups, keeping like things together so that you can find what you need, when you need it.
  3. Let Go - Is your gift wrap container full of wrapping you never choose to use when wrapping a gift? Is your closet jammed with three sizes of clothes, some from a decade ago? Are your drawers full of single socks or plastic lids with no containers? The let go lens helps you see what is inhibiting your current lifestyle and gives you permission to release that which is not enhancing it. 
  4. Boundaries - Are there untouched books jammed into andspilling off the bookshelf, and even more stashed in boxes that are keeping the car out of the garage? Are there shoes covering the "walk in" part of your closet making it difficult to reach your clothes? The boundaries lens enables you to control your stuff so it doesn't control you. Decide how much space you want to assign to certain items and then whittle down and maintain that amount.

Similar to a football coach (see Wise Words below) part of my job is getting people to do what they don't want to do in order to achieve their goal. For some the process can be painful. My standard is kindness and respect. Your results are a sense of relief and peace as living space and accessibility is achieved. Call today to secure your appointment and get on track to achieve your organizing goal.  

WISE WORDS

The job of a football coach is to make men do what they don't want to do, in order to achieve what they've always wanted to be.  --Tom Landry

Soles4Souls Shoe Drive Success

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2,859 pairs of shoes for SOLES4SOULS! Wow! A huge thank you to all who partnered with Organized By Choice in this venture and contributed by giving shoes, promoting, collecting shoes at schools, offices, churches and clubs, serving as drop-off locations, counting and boxing, donating shipping funds, etc. The results exceeded my expectations and will be a welcome sight to our friends in need of shoes around the world. 

S4S packing day with the help of my dear family!

S4S packing day with the help of my dear family!

Organized Giving

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A common thread I have heard from clients and Clovis Community Ed students is the feeling of overwhelm with requests for donations. If you donate to one cause, you're suddenly barraged with ten more requests. Return address labels and cards from various charities pile up along with guilt for not financially supporting them all. Does receiving a nickel in the mail require a $25 check in return?
   Random acts of kindness have their place, but random giving based on guilt or obligation doesn't. Intentional giving reduces the physical and mental clutter associated with the plethora of requests and provides a greater impact. During this season of Thanksgiving, consider theTimely Tips below as you demonstrate your gratitude through organized, intentional giving.                               

TIMELY TIPS - Intentional Giving

  1. Make a list of the organizations, ministries, or causes that represent your interests and passions. 
  2. Confirm that their programs and services also align with your values and goals. 
  3. Do your homework so that you know what percentage of your donation is used for programs, fundraising, and administrative fees.  
  4. To ensure your donations have a substantial impact, don't spread your giving too thin. Reduce your list so your gift goes beyond just covering the cost of their promotional material and processing.
  5. Ask the charity to not share your personal information with other entities.
  6. Ask to be removed from mailing lists that you're not currently giving to. (You can always start again if you choose to.)
  7. Give yourself permission to divert your giving for a season. One of my clients is providing some basic necessities for a local family in need until they're able to get established.  
  8. For the "Top 10 Best Practices of Savvy Donors" and other helpful tips visit  www.CharityNavigator.org. Just beware that they'll be asking for a donation too! 

 

WISE WORDS

We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.  --Mother Teresa 

Let's Eat!

This weekend Scott and I head up the hill to prepare the Hume Lake cabin for renters. It's a place that holds great memories of special times with family and friends. During our kids' teen years, I often didn't know if I'd be feeding five or fifteen. With only a small, outrageously priced grocery store available, I had to come prepared. This required me to be.... well, organized! Having planned ahead for every meal made for some great times around that table-- at least when the meat bees left us alone!

Hume Dinner 2003

Hume Dinner 2003

Too often today's culture forfeits the benefits of sharing a home-cooked meal with those we love. Today's Timely Tips help combat the high calorie fast foods and costly restaurant tabs with an organized plan for putting food on your table.            

TIMELY TIPS - Meal Planning 101
  1. Look at the week or month ahead and plan your dinner menu (it's OK to include a "let's eat out" and eat the leftovers night). 
  2. If you're stuck on what to make, throw out a cry for quick 'n easy dinner ideas from your facebook friends, tap into websites likeallrecipes.com (they'll even provide recipes based on ingredients you have on hand), orask each family member to tell you his/her top three favorites.
  3. If there's a common favorite, consider having it once a week, at least for awhile.  
  4. When you can, double your recipes and store one meal in the freezer (two dinners-- one mess!).
  5. After completing the menu, check your inventory and create a grocery list of items you need. (If you do the menu & shopping for at least two weeks of meals, it will save you time and money.)  
  6. If you're a coupon clipper trycouponsherpa.com or coupons.com to make your meals even more cost effective.
  7. Schedule and create a routine for your menu planning and grocery shopping.  
  8. If home cooking is new to you, start with just a few nights per week, but make a plan and give it a try!  

For a FREE ready-to-use Monthly Menu form and check-off Grocery List send an email a request to info@organizedbychoice.com.

WISE WORDS

On family dinners...

"If it were just about food, we would squirt it into their mouths with a tube," says Robin Fox, an anthropologist who teaches at Rutgers University in New Jersey, about the mysterious way that family dinner engraves our souls. "A meal is about civilizing children. It's about teaching them to be a member of their culture."

As reported by,  MICHAEL ELINS FOR TIME 

  

 

You do WHAT?

"From the day I was born until I had my own child, I lived in a constant state of disorder: I was a classic right-brained creative type, always living in chaos, operating out of piles, spending half my days searching for misplaced papers, lost phone numbers, and missing car keys," says Julie Morgenstern in her book Organizing from the Inside Out. 

Morgenstern is now one of the nation's leading Professional Organizers and a great example of the fact that getting organized and staying organized isn't achievable by only a few select left-brained folks.  

I enjoyed hearing her speak at the recent National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO) Conference. Yes, there is a PO Association with over 4,000 members! Eight hundred of them attended the conference with me. 

Less than ten years ago the organizing industry was new to me, so I'm never surprised when people say, "You do what? I didn't know there was such a thing!" Now that you know too, what difference might it make for you? Check out Timely Tips for more information.

TIMELY TIPS - What an organizer will do for you:

  1. Offer non-judgmental, encouraging motivation to help you meet your organizing goals

  2. Jump start your project when overwhelm has paralyzed you

  3. Provide the expertise when organizing is just "not your thing"

  4. Keep you on-track when the job is tedious or difficult

  5. Help you process what to keep and let go of based on your values and goals

  6. Create order out of chaos

  7. Design sustainable systems to help you maintain you new organized environment

  8. Save your marriage... well OK, that might be an exaggeration, but it can't hurt! 

Eight great reasons to stop procrastinating on that cluttered closet, office, or garage and bring in a pro!

 

Wise Words

A man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.  --Jesus

 

 

Cardboard or treasure box?

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As we prepared to leave our tour of the Point Pinos Lighthouse with my parents, sister, and brother-in-law, the caretaker asked my dad to help fold the lighthouse flag. They carefully and methodically handled the flag making sure it was treated with dignity and prepared for proper overnight storage. It reminded me of the times I've witnessed the folding and presentation of a flag to a grieving family in honor of a loved one. Those become treasured possessions. 

What are some of your treasured possessions? Sometimes we confuse our treasured possessions with stuff that really should be tossed or given away. On Saturday my husband went to work on the side yard and our kids' first little bikes ended up in the garbage. That's really what they were at this point. I had to remind myself that the pictures we have of the kids receiving or riding those bikes are a much better remembrance than the old beat up bikes left to rot on the side yard. Today's Timely Tips offer some ideas on how to honor our treasures and the people they represent in our lives. 

TIMELY TIPS for Treasured Possessions  

  1. Separate your treasured possessions from your pile of junk. If you don't distinguish the items of value now, and remove them from the cardboard box, they will likely all get tossed someday. 
  2. Toss the junk and the cardboard box. 
  3. Determine if the items you saved are treasured possessions or treasured obligations. Perhaps you loved your grandfather, but you don't love the 2' x 4' oil painting he left you. Treasure the memory of him and honor what he enjoyed by taking a picture of it and putting it in an album or create a photo book (www.blurb.com) that's all about him.
  4. Create a special display using small items or portions of things that have significant value. Here's a shadowbox that displays a few rocks my grandfather tumbled, a handwritten page from his notebook, a square of pieced fabric my grandmother sewed, some lace from the dress she wore for their 50th anniversary, and a pin with each of her grandchildren's birthstones. 
  5. If you're storing a box of your children's baby clothes, or the clothes of a loved one who passed away, consider having a quilt or pieced pillow made from the fabrics. 
  6. As you sort through your treasures, are there things you could be using and enjoying rather than storing to be transferred to someone else's garage or closet when you're gone?
  7. Remember that the true treasures are the stories and memories associated with the people you love. Consider making a video showing the items you can't display, or things that are taking too much space in your home or storage. Explain each item's significance, who it belonged to, and related stories. Then honor that person and item by passing it along to someone who can truly use and enjoy it.  

 

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WISE WORDS

The trouble with simple living is that, though it can be joyful, rich, and creative, it isn't simple.  --Doris Janzen Longacre

 

End Homelessness

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Rachel was the first in our family to take home the golden-tailed "McElroy Donkey Champ" trophy this Christmas! I love traditions, but many of the ones we enjoyed while our kids were growing up were celebrated throughout December. Now that our time together is limited, we needed a new tradition. Spoons is a lively (and potentially dangerous) card game where each loss gives you a letter to spell out the word donkey. Rachel will "proudly" display her success until next Christmas when round two determines a new champ.

One of our long-standing traditions is "Grandparents' Soup Night" which takes place a day or two after Christmas. Our parents are also good friends which makes for a delightful evening with the family. This year, I got a big new soup pot for the event. A week after Christmas it was still sitting on my stovetop-- clean, but homeless.

Most of us probably had a thing or two come into our homes over the holidays that we don't have room for, or an assigned home for. In today's Timely Tips I address how to end homelessness (at least for our stuff). After a little purging and reorganizing, my new pot found a home under the stove!

TIMELY TIPS - End Homelessness
  1. Plan ahead. Before buying something new, think about and decide where you will store it. If you need to wait to make the purchase, and first check things out at home, so be it!
  2. Purge. Use the "in with the new and out with the old" motto. A lot of clutter is caused by hanging on to the old one, the broken one, the one there's nothing wrong with, but now you have two. If it's worth passing on, share the old with someone who doesn't have one. If you're not going to use it, and no one else wants it, just let it go.
  3. Containerize. Walk through your house and look for homeless items. Are there keys, coupons, stacks of magazines, etc.? Find practical and/or decorative ways of containerizing things like a key hook next to the door, a file or envelope in the car for your coupons, a basket or magazine rack placed next to your favorite chair. Place things close to where they'll be used whenever possible. 
  4. Toss. Take another walk through the house with a garbage bag and locate homeless items that simply haven't made it to the trash or recycle.
  5. Maintain. Don't put it down-- put it away! Maybe it's not a homeless issue after all. If that's the case, commit to a ten-minute tidy at the end of each day, so things will find their way home. 

Wise Words

 Wise words from Peter Walsh on how to "lighten up" this new year.

Peter Walsh on GMA

 

Christmas Greetings

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Holiday greetings! My wish for you this season is that you'll have treasured moments of peace and joy amidst the hustle and bustle of Christmas. I know that for some this is especially challenging due to significant loss. Many of those I work with have experienced the loss of health, loved ones, or relationships. These losses make it difficult to stay organized, not to mention joyful or peaceful. 
    To me, Christmas represents an extraordinary loss that resulted in an amazing gain. God loves us so much He gave His only Son, Jesus, who "gives light to those who sit in darkness and death's shadow, and to guide us to the path of peace." (Luke 1:79) May peace and joy be yours to the fullest through Him!

TIMELY TIPS - Holiday Stress-Reducers

  1. Steal away to a quiet place with cup of hot chocolate, a comfy chair, and your Christmas cards and letters
  2. Say "no" (in a nice way)
  3. Get your "to dos" out of your head and onto your calendar
  4. Prioritize your projects and give yourself permission to focus on the top five and let the rest go, if needed
  5. Delegate
  6. Take a nap or a walk
  7. Schedule coffee with a friend
  8. Play Christmas music (www.pandora.com)
  9. Request non-cluttering gifts i.e. tickets to an event, a gift certificate for an organizing session, or a Freedom Filer set
  10. Set up a Christmas Savings account at your bank

 

WISE WORDS

Christmas gift suggestions: 

To your enemy, forgiveness. 
To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. 
To a customer, service. 
To all, charity. 
To every child, a good example. 
To yourself, respect. 

-- Oren Arnold

Is a lot to be thankful for, better than a little?

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After a visit in October with "William Brewster" and others who play the part of the Pilgrims of 1620, I was struck with the thought of how little they had to be thankful for. Coming to this new land they left their homes and most of their belongings. Their welcome here was a harsh winter that claimed the lives of almost half their loved ones. Many of those who survived were sick and starving.

But, in the autumn of 1621 they gave thanks for the skills they learned from the Native People, a successful harvest, a roof over their heads, and the freedom to worship as they desired. They didn't have it made, they simply had enough. For that, they gave thanks.   

If you've heard me speak, or taken my class, you know the importance I place on recognizing what's most valuable to you. I believe identifying those relationships and things help center us and make us aware of what we have to be thankful for and beyond that, what we can let go of. It's not the quantity of things that creates a spirit of thankfulness, it's the recognition of what enriches and brings meaning to our lives. 

As we enter this Thanksgiving season, take a moment to read and follow this issue's Timely Tip.

TIMELY TIP - Giving Thanks & Letting Go
Many struggle with letting go of things that crowd their homes and schedules. One step toward letting go is looking realistically at the value those things hold, or don't hold compared to the things and people that are truly important to you. Click below for a little Thanksgiving exercise designed to aid you in this process. You may even want to incorporate it into your Thanksgiving celebration. 
Click here: Giving Thanks and Letting Go

 

WISE WORDS

Saw in a museum in Massachusetts 

Saw in a museum in Massachusetts 

Out of control?

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Chase and the Seals - Santa Barbara

Have you ever felt like you're out on the open seas being tossed in the waves, vulnerable to oncoming ships and sea life? I have. In fact, that's exactly how I felt when we took our kayak out of the Santa Barbara harbor to see the seals perched out on a buoy. The farther out we went, the larger the waves, the more water we took on, and the faster the huge ships came at us. Once we had circled the seal-laden buoy, I was ready to head for the safety of the harbor.

Dictionary.com says that "control" means to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command. There's a lot in life that we can't control; the threat of a terrorist attack, a suffering economy, traffic, and the choices of those around us. Scott and I couldn't control the waves, the ships, or the choice of a seal to use our kayak as a play toy. What we could control was the direction and intensity with which we paddled.

Life can often feel out of control. Today's Timely Tips are designed to help you paddle toward calmer seas in today's busy times.

Here's a pic of the seals and our son, Chase, on a calmer day. We didn't dare take our camera/phone out of the Ziplock on our stormy voyage! 

TIMELY TIPS - Control What You Can

  1. Write down your top five life values and use them to determine what you keep and let go of in your schedule, home, and office.

  2. Schedule time on your calendar with your spouse/kids/friends. Just because it's important, doesn't mean it will happen automatically.

  3. List and commit to your "No-Matter-Whats," the few things you decide that are important enough to do daily/weekly even when life throws you a wrench. 

  4. Set boundaries for tech tools i.e. turn your phone on silent when working on a project, schedule specific times and time limits to check email, Facebook, surf the net, etc.

  5. Know where your car keys are all the time - assign a specific pocket in your purse or briefcase. If shared, use a hook by the garage door or a spot in a drawer where everyone places them when not in use (a small act with big returns when it comes to reducing stress and wasted time).

  6. Plan your meals ahead a week at a time.

  7. Prepare for the next day's activities the night before, choosing wardrobe, preparing items for errands, gathering paperwork, packing kids' homework in backpacks, etc.

  8. Schedule a 10-minute buffer around appointments.

  9. Set up a system for incoming mail and long-term filing to avoid paper piles.

  10. Attend the Organizing Your Paper, Space, and Life class! : )